20ish & waiting for “real life” to start? What do you think real life is?

Don’t shrug your shoulders and say, “I’m in my 20s. What I’m doing doesn’t count.”  Recognize that what you do, and what you don’t do, will have an enormous impact across years and even generations.  You’re deciding your life right now.

I was WAY more ambitious, adventurous, experimental and energetic when I was in my 20s than most of my 30s. I tried, I failed, I did something new. The failures were accomplishments, in their own way, because at least I was still in the build-my-life game. I never stopped — until stopping was the new ambitious experiment, and then I did *that* in a big way. I can’t imagine squandering those years in a fog, waiting for something to appear later. Each decade offers different lessons, even if they don’t reveal themselves immediately. It’s evolution… as long as you stay awake and engaged with whatever your life is at a given moment but don’t ever just waste your precious, priceless time!

You can always start now; every moment is a new now.

Under 30s, especially, check this out (or over-30s still floating along) … maybe it speaks to you.

(ETA: Also, let’s not understate or refuse to notice the privilege that allows actual years of such navel-gazing and postponement of ‘fulfillment’ (itself a luxury concept).


About amywinns

Semi-snarky, semi-sincere, occasionally ranting, always paying attention. Feminist who can work a skirt and crack a joke. Grammar nerd who is also fun at parties. Mid-career writer/editor with 15 years’ experience in newspapers & magazines who now helps developers at a major media corporation communicate with the suits who write the checks. Pro-women, pro-family, pro-choice, pro-workingclass, pro-entrepreneur, pro-farmer. Like every other bourgeois Brooklynite, I choose local/organic/raw food — mostly vegetables — whenever possible/reasonable/affordable but I’m not a smug asshole about it. Hometown: Atlanta. Weird hobby: lindy hop. No pets, no kids, no thanks.
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